50 shades of gray – the book has nothing to do with BDSM practices.
After Eriki James’s novel “50 shades of gray”, the BDSM community, who always have to always stay unnoticed by the townsfolk, flooded neophytes, the initial step of which was the active imposition of multi -page agreements with the mandatory point “To provide the Lord for any sex services on the first request”. Attempts by old -timers of the BDSM forums and clubs to explain to beginners the essence and goals of the thematic session rarely achieved success. For an inexperienced layman, the theme remained only the entourage, where weaves, latex and handcuffs were only a prelude to sexual intercourse.
Discipline in the novel and in life
Christian, the main character of the novel, to the question of his partner, is he a sadist, answers – “I am a dominant”. He insists on unquestioning subordination and a clear distribution of roles, which, it would seem, should guarantee disciplinary influences along with pain. Disciplinary practitioners are quite banal to beginners – as a rule, these are orders in the spirit of “kneel down and suck”, which readers are observed in the novel “50 shades of gray”.
In real BDSM, discipline is implemented very diverse and sophisticated: for example, the upper can order a submissive to put on a prickly wool jacket and walk in it, for example, a minimum of a week, put a small pebble in a shoe that causes discomfort when walking, not wear panties or linen at all, kiss it at allHand at a meeting in public, write in a diaper during a working day, meet it naked on the knees and the like. Discomfort and constant pressure on the saba subordinates its will and makes it convenient for the upper.
Christian Gray Treaty
The signing of the contract, in which the upper reinforces the duties of Saba and her taboo, is practically not found among experienced themes, especially sadists. For the BDSM community, this moment of the novel has become a kind of meme, which has repeatedly ridiculed on thematic forums and sites. Uncertain men of men are seen by a magical tool that guarantees subordination of the lower. In fact, the full subordination of the girl will ensure herself self -confidence and iron will, but not paper formalism in any way.
It seems to many that such a move creates a special electrification and emotional rise in pairs, in reality, the contract as a role -playing game is not particularly popular with fans of the topic and seems somewhat infantile and even comical moment.
The dominant role of sex in the relations of Anastacia and Gray
Sex is generally an ambiguous point for themes, still on the network there are hot debates, whether there is a place of sexual relations in the BDSM or a “clean” topic should be free from this. Disciplinary Games more often include sex than Sado-Mazo, however, sadists do not disdain sensuality. But the common goal of thematic sessions remains common for all practitioners, and the physiological orgasm here is far from the first place. Each of the thematic partners would like to experience Spaces-a special euphoric condition that is somewhat akin to intoxication with light drugs. Most often it is achieved by masochist after flogging (flagellation), skin punctures with needles, cuts with a knife, etc.D.
In the relationship of Gray and Anastasy, the main goal of their meetings never had thematic influences: even when Christian poured a partner, this was only an exciting prelude, which ended with the most pointed sexual intercourse without deviation.
There is a special type of binding in the BDSM – a dynamic bondage, in which a partner in an suspended state is rapidly binded by intricate knots, and her body is fixed in the most uncomfortable position. The top changes the posts of the model, forcing the girl sometimes to experience quite severe pain – for example, hanging her by the ankle of one leg or transferring all the weight to the lower back, which is supported by a thin rope. In the novel by Erica James, binding was not part of the thematic practice, immobility only helped the hero more conveniently engage in intimacy with it.
Gray emphasizes that he does not have vaginal sex, although, according to any topic, it is he who is described in “50 shades of gray”. In Christian’s agreement there is a clause regarding the effects of temperatures, and he did not scare the anastics, but it realizes the upper in this regard only the kisses of the Beloved’s back with an ice cube in the mouth. For contrast – in a serious BDSM club, Maza club provided a lot of emotions and shock sensations, putting on a huge cubic cube, after which her body was puntes.
A typical love novel
The only thing that is related to an affair with the realities of the thematic sphere is the hero’s attitude to the partner’s taboo carefully. Volunteering and safety are the basic principles of BDSM, and the restrictions of the partner are usually observed.
“50 shades of gray” is a typical love novel that gives readers a distorted idea of the topic. In order to engage in BDSM practices, you need to understand that this is a rather serious and strict deviation, and only a person who has perfectly tamed his demons can get pleasure from it.